A little about me: I produce reality TV. And the one thing that I can tell you categorically from every romance reality show I’ve been a part of is this - you learn more from flying a kite with someone than you’ll ever learn from coffee. Coffee’s easy. Coffee’s where our pre-programmed scripts about who we claim to be come out. But you DO something with someone, any action really, and they’re in a moment WITH you. And you’ll find out who they really are. It doesn’t have to be romantic or super creative or even original. It just have to involve two people standing up and moving around in some way. Sure there’s a chance you’ll look goofy or awkward or it could all go horribly wrong. But a NO you understand is better than a YES you’re always on the fence about. Because it’s how you get to who you’re supposed to be with.